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What Are You Willing To Struggle For?

I was listening to Mark Manson this morning and these were some of the ideas that stuck

What are you willing to struggle for? Who doesn't want to feel great, free, happy, living the easy life? Who doesn't want to have great relationships and fabulous sex, make loads of money, be popular and respected by co-workers, and be famous as an Instagram influencer?

Who wouldn't want that?

Are you willing to struggle for these? How much? What pain do you want in your life?

"I want to be happy and have a great family and job," is the general proclamation. Are you willing to pay the price to get it? Many would have you believe this comes easily, without sacrifice and hardship/ But struggle seems to be a great determinant of how our lives turn out.

Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence—but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, and endure the confines of an infinite cubicle cell.

People want to be rich without taking the risks, without the sacrifice of saving and without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth.

Everybody wants to have great sex and an awesome relationship —but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings, and the emotional psychodrama to get there.

What determines your success isn’t by what you want to enjoy. It is measured by what pain do you want to sustain? The quality of life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences, but the quality of negative experiences.

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.

People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the people who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the internal politics of corporate life are the people who get promotions. People who enjoy the façade of the starving artist and thrive in the stress and uncertainty are the people who live it and make it.

The good life does not come easily. It is borne from hardship and negative experiences. Studies have shown us that the more negative, the sweeter the life of success.

So the question is not "What do you want out of life?" but rather "What are you willing to struggle for?"

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